Your Life’s Intentions
- At April 14, 2025
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What is important to you? Being financially successful? Being physically fit and healthy” Becoming a writer? Maybe you want to explore your spirituality or become well-educated or well-travelled. Life presents us all sorts of possibilities, and undoubtedly we will be interested in many things. But there will be some possibilities that ring so true, we must list these first. These are our “Life’s Intentions.”
Possibilities that Call Out to Us
This is the subject of Maria Nemeth’s book, Mastering Life’s Energies. I read her book the first week of the new year and have been thinking about it ever since. How do I intend to live my life? Or perhaps, since I am well past the midpoint of my life, what are my intentions for the time I have left? At least as I see it now?
According to Nemeth, there are some possibilities “that call out to us in a fundamental way,” that when we think about them, we “feel our hearts relax.“ And this is telling, for that feeling of rightness reveals what is right for us.
What Gives Your Heart Ease?
With so many possibilities that present themselves, it is important to focus on what gives us that “feeling of rightness,” that gives our hearts ease. Right now, a few of my intentions revolve around doing some good writing, being a loving family member, maintaining physical fitness and health, and since it is Spring, being a creator of beauty (in my garden.) These goals ring true for me. I think of them and feel a sense of calmness, a sense of peace. All my life I believe these intentions have been a big part of what I value. Sometimes set aside as I pursued an education and worked to make a living, but still there. A touchstone I am able now to keep more to the fore.
Touch Me
Do you know Stanley Kunitz’s poem “Touch Me?” The poet speaks of himself late in his life thinking back to the times he was “wild with love.” “What makes the engine go?” he asks. And then answers. “Desire, desire, desire.” Desire for love, for life, to be part of “the dance.” He ends the poem like this:
“Darling, do you remember
the man you married? Touch me,
remind me who I am.”
Perhaps that’s what we need, too. To have a touchstone. To be reminded of who we really are, of what makes our engines go.
Exercise:
- Think about your “Life’s Intentions.” You can read Nemeth’s book for a list of intentions, or make your own. Use those mentioned above and include items such as being a successful artist, a well-respected professional, and a loyal friend Include other possibilities as they occur to you.
- Place a number value from 1 to 5 on each possibility, with a “5” indicating an intention extremely important to you, and “1” having little importance.
- Select 3 to 5 intentions you’ve given a value of “4” or “5.” Then sit with that list. Do these intentions feel right? Does thinking about them make your heart relax? Then consider how you might spend more time focusing on what you hold of most value. For more inspiration, check out our website www.thewritingandcreativelife.com. Or follow this link to purchase Writing in Community or our latest book, The Fire Inside.
–Lucy Adkins
Extraordinary! Creative Peak Experience
- At April 15, 2024
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The morning poet William Stafford died, he drafted a poem containing these lines: You can’t tell when strange things with meaning will happen. I’m (still) here writing it down just the way it was .“You don’t have to prove anything,” my mother said. “Just be ready for what God sends.” I listened and put my hand into the sun again. It was all easy.”
Watching the horizon
Out of the far sky, sounds like frogs’ croaking and braying from donkeys pervade the air, dark spots flying a moving amoeba. The black birds, I learned later anhingas, circle the Shumard oak trees floating a while on tropical air currents before coasting to nearby branches.
Rising Hope
- At November 20, 2023
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“Your struggle with your varied self, or selves, yields your art… .” – Joyce Carol Oates, The Faith of a Writer.
Morning begins with chirping cicadas, the hum of distant cars winding their way to work, and the smell of rich coffee. For a few single breaths, it’s a narrow and wonderful place where I find myself. The harmony of simple things and places is gold to me. Then, an unexpected rap on our door, again and again. Kerplunk! Rising hope vanishes like a stone thrown into the river–frustration and irritation tornado in. Suddenly, my castle of contentment crumbles.
Write this story? Why not? Who knows what unloved parts of me need attention. I’ve learned writing about deep feelings my own humanity becomes known to me and rising hope follows.
Read More»Living Among the Glories
- At June 26, 2023
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We are what we eat, the old saying goes, and this is true, in that what we feed our bodies affects who we become as physical beings. Similarly, who we become spiritually and emotionally is influenced by what we feed our souls. As does nature.
As a people, we evolved living in nature. We wandered the plains, tended plants and animals that shared the world with us, woke to majestic sunrises and watched in awe as the heavenly bodies crossed the skies. How did this all come to pass, we wondered. We flourished, breathing deep of the rhythms of the earth.
Read More»Writing From the White-Hot Center
- At January 30, 2023
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This last year I discovered a new writer that I love, the novelist, Lily King. In an essay in the back of one her novels, she tells about doing a reading at an Ivy League college in which, during the Q and A afterwards, she was asked “what factors determine your authorial distance from the narrator?” She responded that “I don’t think when I write. I am like a blind worm on the ground.” I love that! “A blind worm on the ground.”
She goes on to relate how she loves English literature classes and has been an English teacher herself. How she’s discussed and taken great interest in English-teachery things such as themes and yes, authorial distance. But that when she writes, she doesn’t use her “English teacher brain.” Not in the first draft of writing, “What you need,” she writes, “all you need, is your creative, sensual, wide-open brain.”
Read More»Want to Consider Collaboration?
- At July 25, 2022
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Ever think about collaborating with another writer or artist on a creative project? Wonder how it works? Bryan Collins, host of the “Become a Writer Today” Podcast recently interviewed Becky and me about our collaboration on our two books, Writing in Community and The Fire Inside. We had an intriguing conversation which provided an opportunity for us to think more about collaboration, how it worked successfully for us, and how a collaborative partner can help you to accomplish more–and better!
You may want to know:
How does the collaborative process work?
What are the advantages?
How do you find a collaborative partner?
You can listen to the interview (or view the transcript of it) here.
For more inspiration, check out our website www.thewritingandcreativelife.com.
Or follow this link to purchase our latest book, The Fire Inside.
Blue Horses: Saying the Unsayable
- At May 23, 2022
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One Christmas I received as a gift the Mary Oliver book, Blue Horses, and was absolutely blown away by it. First of all because of Mary Oliver’s writing which I’ve admired for ages, and secondly, because of the book cover. This features a painting of four horses, their forms rounded and graceful, all looking to the left as if something interesting is there. A fox or a dog returning their gaze, perhaps, or a person. The horses are beautiful and blue, the background in shades of yellow, spangled with stars, as are the horses themselves, their heads and bodies starry. So whether the horses are of the earth or the heavens, we are not sure.
Franz Marc
The painting is by Franz Marc, an expressionist painter and part of the “Blue Riders” group of artists in Germany in the early 1900’s. Marc was talented and influential, but his career was cut short after serving in the army in World War I. In 1916, flying shrapnel struck him in the temple and he was killed instantly. He was just 36 years old.
“Signposts” in the Writing Life
- At November 22, 2021
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One March, driving west for a skiing weekend, my husband and I found ourselves in an interesting situation. It was a cold, cloudy day, snow on the ground but the roads were clear, and we were doing fine. That is, until we crossed the Nebraska border into Wyoming. Then the wind began to blow. Fiercely, hard out of the north, and as it blew, it brought snow with it, scudding across our line of vision. The farther west we drove, the more the wind howled, the blowing snow creating a ground blizzard. Visibility extended only a short distance ahead. Luckily, the highway had roadside reflectors about a hundred yards apart, and we spent the rest of the trip, our hearts in our throats, driving past one reflector and waiting the few anxious seconds before the next one came into view.
Sometimes it can feel that way in our creative lives. We start out pursuing our dreams—committing to creative time, finding ways to deepen our abilities. And now and then putting ourselves and our work “out there” for scrutiny. But though we keep doing our jobs as artists, we’re not sure we’re getting anywhere.
That’s when we need to keep our eyes open for the “reflectors,” those little glimmers that provide hope, that let us know we’re still on the road to where we want to go. What are these reflectors? Signposts that tell us we’re on the right path? They can be something as simple as an appreciative nod from a mentor or fellow artist, or an invitation to display your photographs in a coffee shop. The occasional acceptance of your poem to a literary journal, or an encouraging note in a rejection letter.
Even better than these outward forms of acknowledgment are the times of inner knowing, arriving sometimes mysteriously. When a small voice inside whispers you’re getting better, you’re getting the hang of it. That aha moment when you realize you know what to do to make a particular chapter of your novel come alive. These are small moments in a long artistic life, but each is a sign of progress taking us to the next moment and then the next.
E. L. Doctorow said that “writing is like driving a car at night. You can only see as far as your headlights, but you can make the whole trip that way.” That’s how we live our lives, our artistic lives as well. Driving blind, or nearly blind, depending on the occasional guidepost along the way.
For more ideas to help you along the creative path, see our book, The Fire Inside. We think you’ll be inspired!
Writing Exercise:
- Imagine you are planning to write a memoir. Don’t panic, this is not the exercise, this is just “playing pretend,” imagining. So in outlining of your imaginary memoir, jot down certain facts of your life that will need to be write about. I might include:
–I grew up on a farm in the middle of nowhere
–I grew up poor
–I married Tom (or Mary Ann or whoever)
–I fell in love with flowers - Next, read the poem “Why I’m Here” by Jacqueline Berger.
- Now, select an item from your list and put the word “why” in front of it. This will become the working title of the piece you write. You will be digging deeper. For instance, the title of my poem might be “Why I Grew Up Poor.”
- Write, using the title as above, and beginning the body of your poem or essay with “Because,” and repeat as needed.
Listen to a Sample of our Audiobook!
- At October 18, 2021
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The Fire Inside is now available as an audiobook, and you can listen to a sample by clicking on the arrow below. (We think our reader/narrator, Melissa Melottey, is great!) You may purchase through Apple itunes https://apple.co/3BprtCe or Audible https://adbl.co/3iDEPCq. Note that if you are new to Audible, there’s an option to listen free. Take a listen!
The World of the Imagination and “Making it So”
- At September 20, 2021
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Make It So
Remember Jean Luc Picard, Starfleet Captain in Star Trek? When he and his officers hit upon a solution to get themselves out of a sticky situation—by going to warp speed, say, or activating the deflector shield to evade a hostile force—he instructed his crew to “make it so.” And it would be done. I love that. Determining a course of action and following through. Making it so.
Much of what we do in this life is based upon the decisions we make. Generally speaking, if we decide to pursue a particular dream, if we believe in it strongly enough and dedicate ourselves to shepherding it to fruition, that dream will come into being. Perhaps you want desperately to achieve a college education. What do you do? Study hard in high school, complete college applications and line up loans and scholarships. Or perhaps you want to write a novel. You go to work—preparing an outline, blocking out periods of time to write, and paragraph by paragraph, you write the book. You “make it so.”
Decision by decision, we create our lives—committing to relationships, buying condominiums, going on vacations to Hawaii or the mountains. We learn to play the guitar or the piano, create Japanese gardens or meditation gardens, convert basement rooms into art studios. Roadblocks appear, circumstances may necessitate we alter out plans somewhat, but when we act on our passions, we can create lives which are rich and full, lives full of meaning.
From time to time, however, we may find ourselves feeling a bit stale. Still, as Rousseau said, “The world of reality has its limits; the world of the imagination is boundless.” Maybe it’s time to stretch the imagination, look for ways to further complete our lives. One way we can do this is to set aside time to dream. Get your notebook, number from one to ten, and complete the following phrase: “If all the forces of the universe were with me and the odds were good that I would be successful, I would…” How would you complete the phrase? Maybe you would:
- complete a number of paintings and display them in a local art gallery
- start a series of poems about your garden and the natural world
- add a new sitting area to the first floor of the house.
Let your imagination go and jot down as many dreams as you can. Gloria Steinem said that “Without leaps of imagination or dreaming, we lose the excitement of possibilities. Dreaming, after all, is a form of planning.” So let’s dream, and allow more possibility into our lives. And then, let’s make it so.
For more inspiration, check out our website www.thewritingandcreativelife.com.
Or follow this link to purchase our latest book, The Fire Inside.







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